What do you do if you don’t know what you want to do for a living? Some people have easily identifiable passions and interests. Some people don’t. Some of you will have to spend a lot of time thinking and reflecting to figure out what it is that you are passionate about.
It’s Okay to Ask for Help
According to a recent survey 62% of high school seniors indicated that they need assistance with their educational/occupational plans. For those of you who hate math as much as I do, that’s over half. The majority of high school seniors today are admitting that they need help figuring out their plans for the future.
I could be wrong, but I don’t think that number decreases after high school; at least that’s what my experiences have led me to believe. Actually, I think it probably increases.
As adults get older they get better at hiding the fact that they still don’t know what they want to do for the rest of their lives. They can put on a good show and act like they’ve got it all together. Some genuinely do. Most, say 62% probably don’t.
My dad always told me that whenever an adult asks a kid, “what do you want to be when you grow up?” that they are really just looking for ideas.
I think he’s right.
In my experience I’ve seen two basic reactions people have to not knowing what they want to do with their life.
They dig in their heels. They do whatever they’ve been doing. They dream of change and hope for change, but never take any action. They begin to believe that they are unable to change their situation. They mistake complacency for contentment. This breeds bitterness and hopelessness.
They get help. Help can come in many forms. Help may be a good book, a motivating podcast, or an encouraging friend or coach. Help may be talking with your parents or loved ones and letting them know how you feel. Seek help and take action. Doing this tends to build energy and focus. This breeds hope.
Don’t Fake It
Pretending that you know what you want to do when you really don’t can be disastrous. Don’t fake it. When you start pretending, you become passive and start losing control of your life. Like a snowball rolling down a hill, your situation becomes unwieldy and uncontrollable. 62% of high school seniors are saying they need help. If you need help admit it, get it, and move forward.